In our modern society, families tend to live in small units of one or two adults with a couple of kids, which means that everyone is often overloaded. Classrooms have one teacher to handle twenty to thirty five kids. It's easy for adults to slip into the 'do what I say because' way of being, just to get through. Adults are under-resourced, overworked, have busy schedules and sometimes just have to make things happen, no matter what the cost. We get it. We've been there. It kinda sucks but for most people there don't seem to be any real alternatives.
We'd like to offer some tools to help make things a little easier between kids and adults, and shine a light on why the old ways aren't working. Lee developed Rapport Based Relating after years of working in various educational institutions and witnessing first hand that the traditional 'shout and shame' approach of child wrangling isn't just ineffective, it's potentially damaging to a child's self esteem and sense of internal authority.
Rapport Based Relating isn't just another theory, but a set of real, powerful tools we have honed and refined in our ReWild Tribe / ReWild Your Child family camps. We use open ended questions to unlock children's individual talents and will never tell them the way the world is; instead we ask questions to find out how their world is, and based on what we discover, have real and meaningful communication where we respect the autonomy of each child.
We'd like to offer some tools to help make things a little easier between kids and adults, and shine a light on why the old ways aren't working. Lee developed Rapport Based Relating after years of working in various educational institutions and witnessing first hand that the traditional 'shout and shame' approach of child wrangling isn't just ineffective, it's potentially damaging to a child's self esteem and sense of internal authority.
Rapport Based Relating isn't just another theory, but a set of real, powerful tools we have honed and refined in our ReWild Tribe / ReWild Your Child family camps. We use open ended questions to unlock children's individual talents and will never tell them the way the world is; instead we ask questions to find out how their world is, and based on what we discover, have real and meaningful communication where we respect the autonomy of each child.
We’re interested in helping children to be empowered. We recognise that they are absolutely as valuable, as worthy of respect, and have as much right to a voice as any adult. We truly and deeply believe this at a very real level. It’s not a belief, it’s a knowing. When we move into relationship with kids from this place, children feel recognised and heard. We start from agreements, and from agreements we move into a cooperative dance and a meaningful, nourishing relationship where everyone's needs are respected.
This workshop is a great balance of theory and practice to help us embody new skills. We'll use role play to go through real life scenarios of conflict between kids and adults. We freeze frame, rewind and troubleshoot at various points in the action, looking for what is actually going on, what we want to achieve, and how our old patterns are tripping us up.
Using the four core actions and four core questions of RBR, anyone can access a new way of relating with kids, whether it is your own children, your students, nephews and nieces or kids you work with. This workshop is a must for anyone who is frustrated in their work in educational institutions, outdoor education, or is simply feeling overwhelmed or in need of more clarity and support with family life at home.
For personalised mentoring in a family setting, contact Lee for his 'family whispering' sessions, on 0466 535 549.
Testimonials
‘Lee and Gina saved my family,’ Amanda, 44 with Bailey 14, Maddox 12 and Jami 9
‘Lee has an incredible gift in his ability to connect with children. He captivates them, motivates and inspires them, and the children (and parents!) instinctively trust him.’ Bethany, 36 with Ewan 10
‘Hi Lee and Gina, I had to write to you to say thank you. It’s a week since we worked together and I feel like a blindfold has come off my life. Amali and I are communicating for the first time in years. The agreements are working. I see my son with new eyes, and can see how I have been thinking the problem was all him, when in reality I have been creating it as well. We have had a couple of conflicts since we saw you, but that trick you taught us really works, we get to stop things before they go to defcon 5, while we are both still reasonable, and before we get locked in the old pattern. He has even agreed to less time on the computer and last night he washed up!!
I am so so grateful. I feel like we have a real shot at getting through the next few years with an actual relationship. Thank you for giving me back my son.’ Cassie T, 42 with Amali 12
‘My son wanted to move in with Lee the moment he met him. I have watched Lee on camps and what he does looks like magic. He starts talking and instantly the kids are attentive. He never raises his voice, and the kids just want to do what he asks. I’ve been bringing in his techniques and they have completely changed the way Angus and I interact. He talks to me now about everything. Thank you Lee for the magic.’ Belaya, 48 with Angus 15
‘Hey Lee, thanks for showing my mum that I am not a compete dickhead,’ Brandon, 15
‘Can you come to my school and talk to all my teachers?’ Jessica, 13
‘I don’t get so angry all the time and mum and dad are being nice to me now.’ Lily, 8
‘Hi Lee and Gina. The role play was epic. My dad has stopped shouting so much and we’re going camping this weekend, which is cool. We’re going fishing.’ Cameron 11
This workshop is a great balance of theory and practice to help us embody new skills. We'll use role play to go through real life scenarios of conflict between kids and adults. We freeze frame, rewind and troubleshoot at various points in the action, looking for what is actually going on, what we want to achieve, and how our old patterns are tripping us up.
Using the four core actions and four core questions of RBR, anyone can access a new way of relating with kids, whether it is your own children, your students, nephews and nieces or kids you work with. This workshop is a must for anyone who is frustrated in their work in educational institutions, outdoor education, or is simply feeling overwhelmed or in need of more clarity and support with family life at home.
For personalised mentoring in a family setting, contact Lee for his 'family whispering' sessions, on 0466 535 549.
Testimonials
‘Lee and Gina saved my family,’ Amanda, 44 with Bailey 14, Maddox 12 and Jami 9
‘Lee has an incredible gift in his ability to connect with children. He captivates them, motivates and inspires them, and the children (and parents!) instinctively trust him.’ Bethany, 36 with Ewan 10
‘Hi Lee and Gina, I had to write to you to say thank you. It’s a week since we worked together and I feel like a blindfold has come off my life. Amali and I are communicating for the first time in years. The agreements are working. I see my son with new eyes, and can see how I have been thinking the problem was all him, when in reality I have been creating it as well. We have had a couple of conflicts since we saw you, but that trick you taught us really works, we get to stop things before they go to defcon 5, while we are both still reasonable, and before we get locked in the old pattern. He has even agreed to less time on the computer and last night he washed up!!
I am so so grateful. I feel like we have a real shot at getting through the next few years with an actual relationship. Thank you for giving me back my son.’ Cassie T, 42 with Amali 12
‘My son wanted to move in with Lee the moment he met him. I have watched Lee on camps and what he does looks like magic. He starts talking and instantly the kids are attentive. He never raises his voice, and the kids just want to do what he asks. I’ve been bringing in his techniques and they have completely changed the way Angus and I interact. He talks to me now about everything. Thank you Lee for the magic.’ Belaya, 48 with Angus 15
‘Hey Lee, thanks for showing my mum that I am not a compete dickhead,’ Brandon, 15
‘Can you come to my school and talk to all my teachers?’ Jessica, 13
‘I don’t get so angry all the time and mum and dad are being nice to me now.’ Lily, 8
‘Hi Lee and Gina. The role play was epic. My dad has stopped shouting so much and we’re going camping this weekend, which is cool. We’re going fishing.’ Cameron 11
Rapport Based Relating - Foundations Aug - Dec 2022
A holistic perspective on Relationships, Parenting and Mental/Emotional Wellness
Interactive seminars at 5 monthly intervals, starting August 20th.
Early bird ends Aug 1st!
(This training is a pre-requisite for upcoming Holistic Psychotherapy Training in 2023)
More info on the Foundations course below, or click to
Book Here
This online training is starting on Saturday August 20th.
(There is still time to catch the Early Bird price until Aug 1st)
I’m excited to announce something that I’ve been building up to for a while now and has been much requested.
In our previous RBR call series we covered so much great content and touched on a several aspects of the Rapport Based Relating (RBR) approach (including communication, relationships, emotional holding and regulation, talking to teens, trauma, grief and anger). But we never really addressed exactly what RBR is?
So I’m devoting a full course spanning over 5 months to just that.
What is Rapport Based Relating? How can it help us in all our relationships (including with ourselves?) As well as covering foundational skills of emotional intelligence, self development and holding space.
Over five monthly interactive seminars we explore the holistic Rapport Based Relating approach and how it can translate into more mental/emotional wellbeing in your life, along with deeper relationships and calmer parenting.
We want this training to be accessible to everyone as possible, so each interactive seminar is only $49 if you book before August 1st ($59 per call thereafter).
You can just book into the sessions that most interest you, but anyone who wants to apply for the Holistic Psychotherapy Training in 2023 will need to have taken all 5 seminars.
Schedule:
Saturday August 20th 10am - 1pm
Session 1 - An Overview. Cultural Repair and Weaving the Ropes of Connection.
Saturday September 17th 10am - 1pm
Session 2 - Cleaning Windows. A framework for greater clarity, especially in difficult interactions.
Saturday October 22nd 10am - 1pm
Session 3 - The Illusion That It Has Taken Place. Communication, Boundaries and Peacemaking.
Saturday November 19th 10am - 1pm
Session 4 - When Things Fall Apart. Triggers & Trauma, Grief & Grit.
Saturday Dec 10th 10am - 1pm
Session 5 - Wrapping the Bundle. Relationships as a Transformative Practice for a Hopeful Future.
These are foundations for every human who wants to be able to build better connections. This course will be rewarding for those interested in knowing what is actually going on in their relationships and how to make them better. It would also be especially helpful for couples and parents who need help navigating home and family life. As well as covering foundational skills for those wanting to learn about somatic talk therapy.
Investment:
Full course: 5 X 3 hour sessions over 5 months
Early bird: $245 ($49 per call)
Full price: $295 ($59 per call)
Booking:
Please note: You can book several (or all) sessions at once by selecting 'Buy more sessions' at the bottom of the Your Cart window in Trybooking website.
To book your place, click here. (Early Bird price until Aug 1st)
or here:
https://www.trybooking.com/CAJEZ
I look forward to seeing you on the journey!
---------------
Now, in case you're interested... here's a little something about the upcoming
Holistic Psychotherapy training.
This is something that has been requested from me more and more in recent years. It seems everyone is seeing the value of body-centred talk therapy and are excited to bring it to their communities and clients (many of whom are in caring/wellness roles and find themselves inadvertently in the position of counsellor and would like more clarity and tools to better serve their clients).
I think it is such an important skill to have as humans. Being able to listen and see deeply through someone’s experience and help them unpack and find meaning and peace is such a generous offering to bring to the world. I feel very strongly about this work and am excited to share my take on this healing art.
Starting next year I’ll be running the very first stream of my Holistic Psychotherapist Online Training. This course will be the deepest I have delved into what I think of as the path of the Bodhisattva.
If the Buddha's path is transcending the world, the Bodhisattva's path is allowing more of the world in to her/his heart. We are working to expand and deepen our ability to care, to love. In such a way that we are not overwhelmed, but rather more connected. And from this ability to hold and cherish Life in all its forms, real transformation and true healing can occur.
This course may be for you if:
- Are a healer/body worker wanting to add the power of body-centred talk therapy to your practice
- Want to train and practice as a counsellor
- Want to be a better listener, friend or community member
- Feel called to the path of the Bodhisattva, the Protector, the Healer
If this sounds like you then the first step in the journey is the
5 Month RBR Online Foundations Training (described above).
Part of the design of this course is get us all on the same page and have a common language on some of the basic skills that all therapists need to have. (Which is why the RBR course is a compulsory prerequisite to joining the full Holistic Psychotherapy Training course)
As always if you have any questions about the upcoming courses please don’t hesitate to get in touch.
If you feel called to this journey, this vocation, then I'm excited to connect with you in the months to come!
Many blessings and much love,
Lee
A holistic perspective on Relationships, Parenting and Mental/Emotional Wellness
Interactive seminars at 5 monthly intervals, starting August 20th.
Early bird ends Aug 1st!
(This training is a pre-requisite for upcoming Holistic Psychotherapy Training in 2023)
More info on the Foundations course below, or click to
Book Here
This online training is starting on Saturday August 20th.
(There is still time to catch the Early Bird price until Aug 1st)
I’m excited to announce something that I’ve been building up to for a while now and has been much requested.
In our previous RBR call series we covered so much great content and touched on a several aspects of the Rapport Based Relating (RBR) approach (including communication, relationships, emotional holding and regulation, talking to teens, trauma, grief and anger). But we never really addressed exactly what RBR is?
So I’m devoting a full course spanning over 5 months to just that.
What is Rapport Based Relating? How can it help us in all our relationships (including with ourselves?) As well as covering foundational skills of emotional intelligence, self development and holding space.
Over five monthly interactive seminars we explore the holistic Rapport Based Relating approach and how it can translate into more mental/emotional wellbeing in your life, along with deeper relationships and calmer parenting.
We want this training to be accessible to everyone as possible, so each interactive seminar is only $49 if you book before August 1st ($59 per call thereafter).
You can just book into the sessions that most interest you, but anyone who wants to apply for the Holistic Psychotherapy Training in 2023 will need to have taken all 5 seminars.
Schedule:
Saturday August 20th 10am - 1pm
Session 1 - An Overview. Cultural Repair and Weaving the Ropes of Connection.
Saturday September 17th 10am - 1pm
Session 2 - Cleaning Windows. A framework for greater clarity, especially in difficult interactions.
Saturday October 22nd 10am - 1pm
Session 3 - The Illusion That It Has Taken Place. Communication, Boundaries and Peacemaking.
Saturday November 19th 10am - 1pm
Session 4 - When Things Fall Apart. Triggers & Trauma, Grief & Grit.
Saturday Dec 10th 10am - 1pm
Session 5 - Wrapping the Bundle. Relationships as a Transformative Practice for a Hopeful Future.
These are foundations for every human who wants to be able to build better connections. This course will be rewarding for those interested in knowing what is actually going on in their relationships and how to make them better. It would also be especially helpful for couples and parents who need help navigating home and family life. As well as covering foundational skills for those wanting to learn about somatic talk therapy.
Investment:
Full course: 5 X 3 hour sessions over 5 months
Early bird: $245 ($49 per call)
Full price: $295 ($59 per call)
Booking:
Please note: You can book several (or all) sessions at once by selecting 'Buy more sessions' at the bottom of the Your Cart window in Trybooking website.
To book your place, click here. (Early Bird price until Aug 1st)
or here:
https://www.trybooking.com/CAJEZ
I look forward to seeing you on the journey!
---------------
Now, in case you're interested... here's a little something about the upcoming
Holistic Psychotherapy training.
This is something that has been requested from me more and more in recent years. It seems everyone is seeing the value of body-centred talk therapy and are excited to bring it to their communities and clients (many of whom are in caring/wellness roles and find themselves inadvertently in the position of counsellor and would like more clarity and tools to better serve their clients).
I think it is such an important skill to have as humans. Being able to listen and see deeply through someone’s experience and help them unpack and find meaning and peace is such a generous offering to bring to the world. I feel very strongly about this work and am excited to share my take on this healing art.
Starting next year I’ll be running the very first stream of my Holistic Psychotherapist Online Training. This course will be the deepest I have delved into what I think of as the path of the Bodhisattva.
If the Buddha's path is transcending the world, the Bodhisattva's path is allowing more of the world in to her/his heart. We are working to expand and deepen our ability to care, to love. In such a way that we are not overwhelmed, but rather more connected. And from this ability to hold and cherish Life in all its forms, real transformation and true healing can occur.
This course may be for you if:
- Are a healer/body worker wanting to add the power of body-centred talk therapy to your practice
- Want to train and practice as a counsellor
- Want to be a better listener, friend or community member
- Feel called to the path of the Bodhisattva, the Protector, the Healer
If this sounds like you then the first step in the journey is the
5 Month RBR Online Foundations Training (described above).
Part of the design of this course is get us all on the same page and have a common language on some of the basic skills that all therapists need to have. (Which is why the RBR course is a compulsory prerequisite to joining the full Holistic Psychotherapy Training course)
As always if you have any questions about the upcoming courses please don’t hesitate to get in touch.
If you feel called to this journey, this vocation, then I'm excited to connect with you in the months to come!
Many blessings and much love,
Lee